Anger and rage before treatment!!

[shakira]

My hsb has been behaving violently and is depressed and showing all symptoms associated with treatment and he hasnt even started tx. He was behaving like this before he was diagnosed and i couldnt take it, at least now there is an exp[lanation. Is this normal??

[willy]

I've got to say that it may be a seperate issue.  There are many uninfected people that have issues with rage.  I don't know if he has things that seem to trigger the reaction.  You will often hear about people that while on treatment that have problems with rage...... but pre-treatment I would probably guess that depression or confusion is more common, so far as symptoms of the mind go.

I would try to speak with a doctor about it.  If you are in fear of your husband and what he might do...... I would take some sort of action.  Would he consent to talk with a doctor about it?  A doctor will help you sort out whether it is a medical rooted problem...... or whether it may be psycholgogically based.  It could be an issue with your marriage.......or his past...... or his new status of being infected.  Just because I haven't heard much about anger and rage in non-treaters doesn't mean that it can't be a medical, and possibly hep related medical issue.  If you could get some help with it...... it could end up really helping both of your lives.

Good luck and protect yourself.

Best,
Willy

[lmt1331]

my husband found out for sure he has hep c, about 6 weeks ago. well he is depressed, and ha now decided, he doesn't luv me anymore. he is just closing me off, i don't know what to do ?

[Dude]

Welcome in here, lmt1331. Get him to take a read in here. Try to tell him you still love him and forgive him, he's under a mountain of stress now, and it's not going away, so he thinks he's history and probably doesn't want you to suffer with him. And he's pissed off bad.

You made a good move coming here. Get him to post in the "News, Friends, Prayers and more..." forum if you can, it'll put him before alot of folks who are or have been going through all he's suffering now. And some of us have even worse situations facing us every day. He also needs to know that there are good ways to manage big stress like this, and he needs to work on it, with you along side. He'll be so much better off if he has you for moral support. Try to understand him, he thinks he's going to die soon. He needs to let go of those fears and get himself back in the drivers seat on this and get in here with us so he can learn what he has as options.

Hope to see you both in here again real soon. Remember, the other forum I mentioned (above) is a more frequently read forum (I think) and will get a lot of good, positive feedback.

God bless.

[shakira]

Hello, I have to admit I have not vivited this site for along time, but seeing the new post of someone going through similar emotions to myself at the beginning it has prompted me to start again.I have just been through a hellish year of uncertainty and not sure whether to stay or go etc. But i have decided to help and realise I am the only one who can help him and all this anger to me is cos of the disese. But things are made worse cos we are living in a country in Africa ( apparently it has very high rate of HCV). The nearest docs for HCV are 6 hours away and cost a lot and its all so corrupt we dont trust anything, dont even trust the lab results etc.He will jot talk to anyone here about it. We have decided to return to good old England next year, mainly for the help we can get.
Meanwhile we are basically on our own.If I was in England I would be going to evey support group I could for help with the HCV and depression . He could talk to professionals. But til then any advice on what i can do . I am reducing the oily food( which he has always had as iots normal here!),I got silymarin from England, also ecinachea(elixir- is this any good and whats the best form to take it in-or not).He still keeps taking medicines for all sorts of things as its so easy to get them eg antihistamin, antibiotics.It makes me really angry as in this society they all reach for medicines straight away for anything.
So basically Im asking what else can I do til we go to Englanbd and get proper professional help.Thanks

[robin]

Shakira...come to places like this and vent your frustrations. We have all been there and understand to some degree what you are going through. Wishing you a speedy trip back to England and a good outcome with treatment. Keep your spirits high...robin

[pixie]

Did anyone ever hear from Shakiira..?....Did they get thru tx ok....?....I know just how hard it is for suporters and Partners I bellieve we need a medal somedays ..

If anyone wants to talk about treatment issues especially rages, then feel free to ask me....I have been on tx and supported my partner jb thru tx...He did have a difficult time head wise.....Ours was a new relationship as well I knew him for just 12 weeks b4 he started tx I was 12 weeks into my tx by then....And was living together..Lol

Px

[beingbecky]

Shakira,

Anger and rage is highly associated with depression. Anger is also fear. I am on anti-depressants for a condition called bipolar II. It is high depression with occasional manic behaviors. So depression is a part of what I deal with daily. I have been diagnoised with this for 13 years or more and I have learned so much about it, I can really keep myself in check. I am an angry person inside, and I choose to take the anti depressant I am on, because it improves the quality of life for me. The Lord knows, I HATE TAKING MEDICINE, but life is not good when I live in my depression. I think I have done everything Spiritually I can to get to the bottom of my issues that contribute to who I am and what things have haunted my past, so I know this depression thing for me just won't go away on it's own. Hopefully, he can find a way to deal with depression, there are some natural herbal things that could possibly help a little. St. Johns Wort, 5htp, SAM E. I don't know what type of things they could recommend for you where you are. In the mean time just keep coming in and sharing, it does help to get stuff off your chest.

LMT,

Sorry to hear your husband is going through this rough period. Just keep coming here for support and encouragement. Hopefully, he will come in here too.

Prayers express!

Becky

[KatNyerHAT]

Pixie and Becky, I think it's a valiant effort to try and follow up with Shakira, however, some members come post a couple of times, then you never hear from them again.  This post was from 2006 and if you search for her last post, you can see it's been quite awhile since she's posted last (Feb 2007).  Sure hope she does return.

Hugs, 
Kat

[beingbecky]

Yeppers Kat I noticed it after i wrote it. 

Well I hope they are doing ok, never to late to say a lil prayer.

Becky

[negative1]

I think tx has effected Becky a little Kat. We need to handle her gently here. I know she is really excited about this 2006 cali gathering!



he he he

Earl

[pete c]

HEY Earl
becky saz what was it i missd  2006 oh darn. t heee
                                         petec

[beingbecky]

  Ok Earl!

LOL!

Becky

[19Dragon52]

Not is all lost Wise Guys!    Cristofero stopped posting...I believe in 2006.  "Stop in anytime here Chris and help me out!"  And now he's back posting.  I remembered him from before I had started TX and was hanging out a lot in "Alternatives."

Anyway, Becky & Pixie...it never hurts to pop open an old thread.  We all know it's worth a try.  There might be a tiny miracle behind a closed door.

Love Ya All.....

[KatNyerHAT]

Did BadKat get a hand-slap???  OUCH!!!   

Yes, I'm sorry.. I should be the last person to point out dates and such... and totally guilty of posting, then disappearing... then reappearing...    I repeatedly talk to walls and to myself.  And Beck, perhaps you were compelled to come here to post....

even if only for Earl to poke fun!!! 

Sure hope the two, or should I say 3 of you had a great meeting...

My bad, Joyce!